It's hard for me to tell myself to trust people and be open, because I don't. That's one of the negative things about this industry that makes you very scared of everybody and their motives. It's sad, but that's how you have to protect yourself.
Selena Gomez Quotes
I'm getting older, though I don't look it at all—I hate it now, but I'll love it later.
I've dated people that are not in the industry, and it does get really hard and stressful.
I love letting [my fans] know how bizarre this world is and that our lives are not better than theirs just because we get to be in magazines.
I think as I’m getting older and having more in-depth relationships, maybe I’ll experience [being in love]. At the moment, I don’t know, exactly, if I’ve been in love.
To me, love is normal. Of course, you see Jay and Beyoncé and you’re like, ‘Oh, my gosh, they’re perfect for each other,’ but at the end of the day their love is just like everybody else’s love.
I try to avoid gossip, but it's obviously unavoidable. Gossip is everywhere. There are moments where I read things that hurt my feelings, but not most of the time, I don't surround my life with magazines or internet.
I feel like I give a lot of myself to my fans, but I also keep a lot of things to myself. There are certain parts of my life that should be just for me and nobody else.
There is a lot of pressure, but everyone faces pressure in their life. There are other people my age trying to deal with college and figuring out who they are. Others face pressure to buy their own house, which is also stressful. I just face a different type of pressure.
Rejection doesn't feel good and sometimes you want to lash out and be in a bad mood, but it's not worth it . . . I try my best to not dwell on the bad stuff. Focus on the positive.
[The paparazzi] are always around - they are on vacation with me, and they sit outside my house. To be honest, I don't respect what they do. I understand what they are doing and I get it, but I don't really like them.
There's a lot of rejection in this industry and it's tough. There are also a lot of obstacles that you have to go through and it can be really exhausting. But if you love it, then that's all that matters. You've got to go for it. I still have people trying to bring me down, but I'm happy because I love what I do. Ignore the cruel jibes and stick with the nice people.
I have a love-hate relationship with the Internet. I don’t like it in general — it’s vicious. But it’s also incredible that I can connect with fans, because I love to hear their feedback and let them know about my life.
You can’t shut down, you can’t say, ‘What can I do to make this go away?’ You have to let it be painful and get through it. Every day gets better.
I believe in second chances, but I don’t believe in third or fourth chances. I love talking through things, and I always want to make things work, if I really love someone, but eventually, if they can’t fix whatever is wrong, or if they’ve done something and then they continue to do it, they’re probably not going to change for anybody. You can’t change a person.
I don’t like hiding. I do like to keep certain things to myself, but at the end of the day, I’m eighteen, and I’m going to fall in love. I’m going to hang out with people, and I’m going to explore myself, and I’m okay with that.
I actually get told that I'm a very dark person. I like to dream, but I also like to be realistic; sometimes, when something is so nice and sweet, I just crush it. I don't mean to, but I don't want to be let down.
I think that it’s part of the job where you turn into a role model. It’s not something I aimed toward. But now that it’s kind of a title, I do embrace it, because it’s very sweet to have little girls have posters and T-shirts of you.
I've seen so many people who really let this business control their life and it's heartbreaking. But I'm glad I went through it, because it made me realize that I don't want to live like that. I don't want to let fame stop me from being myself, and I don't want to flinch every time I see a flash.
I don’t get mad about that anymore. It kind of comes with the territory. I know there’s never ‘the next.’ You’re your own person. I’m not here to be ‘the next.’ I’m here just to be Selena. That’s it!
I've given up the Internet. I don't read comments, and I don't go on any of the sites anymore, and I just feel better. And it's not about being a celebrity — you get on MySpace, Facebook, there's all these different outlets where people can just feel like nobody's watching them so they can just say whatever they want to say, and that gets dangerous sometimes.
I like debating, and I want to be right, so I can drag out a discussion for hours. I tell people, ‘Remember, I’m Mexican and Italian, so don’t make me mad.’