In October 2008, Jennifer Hudson went to see her fiancé, David Otunga, fight in a wrestling match. It was a last minute decision, but it was a decision that saved Hudson's life, because she wasn't at her family's Chicago home when her family was murdered.
Hudson lost her mother, Darnell Donerson, 57, her brother, Jason Hudson, 29, along with her seven year-old nephew, Julian King. She told Ebony magazine: "That's one of the things that saved my life. Because I could have been home with my mom then."
The singer explains: "[David] wanted me to come out to Florida with him instead of going to Chicago. I flew out to see him; that's why I'm still here."
It took Jennifer a while to process the realization.
"I've never said that before, and I can't believe I just said that now. But I didn't know. He was just like, 'I'm going to this wrestling thing and it's in Tampa. I'm going out there now, so you can come out there and see me versus going home.'"
Jennifer says that she and David had been planning "the biggest, grandest wedding ever" during the time that her family was killed. And the tragedy still has Hudson questioning whether she's ready to set a date.
"After that happened, I was like, 'I don't know what I want,'" Hudson explained. "A lot of things have happened in my life. There are a lot of things that I need to get adjusted to before I do anything else. That's how I feel about it."
And making things even more difficult is the fact that Jennifer's brother had an issue with the marriage.
"My brother had the biggest issue with it," Hudson said. "He cried. But I'm his baby sister, so of course he was going to have issues with it."
While the rest of her family trusted her judgment, Hudson was still cautious about running down the aisle.
"The rest of the family would say, 'Well, Jenny always seems to make the right decisions.' I was being told this for a reason, so I thought, 'We're going to take our time'. Obviously, I listened."
William Balfour is the man charged with the murder of Hudson's family. He's the estranged husband of Jennifer's sister Julia. In 2010, Hudson said the whole ordeal "was surreal."
"For almost two weeks straight . . . [I was] inside one room with just family and friends coming in and out," she says. "I prayed when I'd get up in the morning and prayed before I laid down at night."