I usually wear Jil Sander, or I wear Marc Jacobs, or I wear Viktor & Rolf . . . I love Raf Simons, but I didn’t know he was even doing the [Jil Sander] collection. I like Neil Barrett. I love clothes, so when I wear clothes, they’re usually somebody’s. You know, I’m not wearing Kmart.
Ellen Degeneres Quotes
He made me let him feel my breasts. He made me lie down because he said he felt [my mother's] when she was lying down. He tried to break down the door to my bedroom . . . I had to kick a window out and escape and sleep in a hospital all night long.
That’s why it killed me so much when I came out. All I wanted to do was make people laugh. That, in turn, gave me so much joy. Then when I decided to be honest with people, it was somehow taken away for a while.
The reason I do what I do is because I was influenced by Steve Martin, by Woody Allen, by Bob Newhart, by Carol Burnett, by Lucille Ball. I mean, if you put "f***" in front of anything, an audience is going to laugh. You know? It just-- it's easy. And I like a challenge.
I mean, even before I knew I was gay, I knew I didn't want to have a child. I knew I didn't want to have one. I never want to have to release it from me. Listen, I love babies. I love children. And I melt when I'm around them. I also love my freedom and I love that I can sleep at night.
First of all, she didn't understand it, and then she went to the library and read about homosexuality, which I can only imagine what those books were. You know? She probably first got Homo sapiens and read that. That's probably the only book they had. Well, what's wrong with that? So what, she's a Homo sapien? Aren't we all? But, see, she was great. All this-- thought it was a phase. And she thought I'd, you know, go through it and-- like the tube top. 'Oh, she won't wear that after a certain amount of time.' And I don't . . . She was right about the tube top. That was a phase.
I think it was shocking to me. It was shocking to my mom. It was shocking to everybody. Because, you know, I had boyfriends. And I was boy-crazy. And almost got married in high school.
When I made the decision to come out, everything was great. And I really naively thought nobody's going to care, you know. It's like, I'm going to just now say, by the way, I'm gay. I mean, all of my business people, all my people, were saying, don’t do it, you know . . . I couldn't listen to them. I had to listen to me. You know? It's my life. It's my heart. It's my soul. It's my journey. And it's who I am.
I wish that I wasn't seen differently. I wish that people looked at me and just saw that I was a good person with a good heart. And that wants to make people laugh. And that's who I am. I also happen to be gay. And I would love to have the same rights as everybody else. I would love, I don't care if it's called marriage. I don't care if it's called, you know, domestic partnership. I don't care what it's called. I mean, there are couples that have been together, 30 years, 40 years. And all of a sudden, they lose their house, you know, the taxes kill them, because it's different because they're not married. Everything is taken away just because. You know, with Sept. 11, there are a lot of people that lost their partner and didn't get the same benefits. It's not fair. And at the same time I know there are people watching right now saying, you know, it's sick it's wrong, it's this. And it's like, I can't convince them that I'm not sick or wrong, that there's nothing wrong with me. You know, I can live my life and hope that things change, and hope that we're protected as any other couples.
Now we have hands-free phones, so you can focus on the thing you're really supposed to be doing ... chances are, if you need both of your hands to do something, your brain should be in on it too.
I'm not putting a gown on any time soon. I was shopping for one, and the one I picked out J. Lo had already picked out. So I can't wear that now.
I felt it since the day she walked out the door. I haven't seen her since. I didn't want to watch the Barbara Walters special , but it was the only way I was getting information. You think y'all were shocked! I mean, it was horrible. It was hurtful on levels that just kind of... kept unfolding. So I watched out of curiosity, because you just wonder, “What is it in me that I didn't have some kind of indication of something?”
It's like comparing two straight people that happen to have the same profession. When she started getting serious and political, she either didn't know any better or she went for it anyway because she's a really strong, outspoken person and doesn't seem to care that much about what people think. But I'm completely opposite of that. I care tremendously what people think, and I learned the hard way. I'm gonna continue to be honest, but at the same time there are certain things that I'm just not gonna engage in on the show. I'm not gonna engage in politics, I'm not gonna start talking about religion. It's an entertainment show. It's not my passion to change the world.
I didn't know I was going to be a comedian. I didn't know that was even an option. I thought being funny was just a personality trait. I didn't think it was a career option.
I don't think I'm aging in a normal way, anyway. I don't feel like I'm 44. I feel like that's just a number and I don't really pay attention to it. I feel a lot smarter now than I was when I was 30, but I don't feel older.
If you're laughing, you can't possibly woo at the same time. So if someone's wooing, then they're not totally listening or getting it . . . It's almost insulting. It's like when I see singers and they get to that one final part of the song where they're singing this beautiful note and people start screaming and cheering, it's like, 'Listen to that! That's a beautiful note.' So that's hard for me when people are coming and they're just excited because I'm a celebrity or because I'm gay. You know, like, I have a lot of people that just come for the wrong reasons.
People love gossip. It's the biggest thing that keeps the entertainment industry going. I think I'm a good person, but every once in a while I hear something about somebody and I want to share that information. I feel bad about it, but that's a really tough habit to stop.
I understand that I am being truthful to who I am and not too many people can say that. But it's hard, every single day, to know you're doing the best you can but you're still up against a huge force. Whether it's verbally acknowledged or not, it's a really difficult thing. A lot of people have husbands or wives or friends or family who don't understand. It's so hard to follow your path when you're not surrounded by support.
So many people prefer to live in drama because it's comfortable. It's like someone staying in a bad marriage or relationship—it's actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect.
There was a time it was just me huddled down, like, 'I can't take it anymore. I can't take any more criticism. I can't take any more jokes. I can't take being the punchline every time.’ I got myself into this huge political platform that started p---ing everybody off. So it was hard to move on and work again. But you reach a point where you decide not to care so much what everybody else thinks. You don't have any other choice, unless you want to lose your mind and do nothing at all.
I feel like I'm in a unique position as host. Think about it: What would bug the Taliban more than seeing a gay woman in a suit surrounded by Jews?
I experienced both sides of it because when I came out, everything was great. I was ‘Entertainer of the Year,’ and I was one of the ‘Ten Most Fascinating People.’ And it was a whole year of celebrating Ellen. And then it went to the complete opposite end. Suddenly I had become this person that everybody was saying, "Oh, I hate her. Oh, I love her." And I heard about all of it. It just got to be where I couldn't watch TV without somebody saying something mean. I was the punch line of every joke, like Monica Lewinsky.