It's a supremely wonderful day for equality. Prop 8 is over, and so is DOMA. Congratulations everyone. And I mean everyone.
Ellen Degeneres Quotes
I think adults need to know they’re doing the same thing. It’s not just kids. There are adults that are out there bullying, and they need to be kind.
Portia and I have been married for 4 years and they have been the happiest of my life. And in those 4 years, I don't think we hurt anyone else's marriage. I asked all of my neighbors and they say they're fine. But even though Portia and I got married in the short period of time when it was legal in California, there are 1,138 federal rights for married couples that we don't have, including some that protect married people from losing their homes, or their savings or custody of their children. The truth is, Portia and I aren't as different from you as you might think. We're just trying to find happiness in the bodies and minds we were given, like everyone else.
Thank you President @BarackObama for your beautiful and brave words. I'm overwhelmed.
I usually don't talk about stuff like this on my show, but I really want to thank everyone who is supporting me. Here are the values that I stand for: honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you want to be treated and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values.
People are constantly asking Portia and me if we are going to have children. We thought about it. We love to be around children after they've been fed and bathed. But we ultimately decided that we don't want children of our own. There is far too much glass in our house.
I'm not an activist; I don't look for controversy. I'm not a political person, but I'm a person with compassion. I care passionately about equal rights. I care about human rights. I care about animal rights. Above all, I strive to be the best I can — to be better than I was yesterday and better tomorrow.
Even though I had a big foundation with my career and years of work, it just divided everyone when I came out. Simply my saying I was gay — even though I was the exact same person — divided everyone. People stopped watching the show, so some advertisers pulled out. It didn't matter that I was a good, devoted, loyal employee. I mean, I showed up on time. I never did anything wrong. I was kind. I was easy to work with. And yet it was the dollar that mattered more. It was just a huge dose of reality for me. But losing it all really gave me time to realize that all this stuff is very fleeting. If success is really dependent on someone liking you or not liking you, and you have to teeter on that kind of tightrope of how you're supposed to act and how you're supposed to look and who you are, it's just not a healthy way to live. Now I get to be me every single day and not have to worry about hiding anything at all.
I can't imagine doing it any other way. I mean, you get used to living with secrets, because I did. There are people out there hiding all kinds of things. People who have all this success and all this fame and all this money, and yet there are secrets that they think if we found out about, it would be over for them. And it's a horrible way to live whether you're famous or not. You could just be somebody at home with a bunch of kids, and hiding something from the ladies at the PTA. That's a horrible way to live.
Faith is part of who I am, yes. I was raised Christian Scientist. The most important thing I saw every single week on the wall at Sunday school was the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." That's what I got out of church and, to me, it's still the way to live. My dad is still Christian Scientist. My mom's not, and I'm not. But I believe in God, and that there's a higher power and an intelligence that's bigger than us and that we can rely on. It's not just us, thinking we are the ones in control of everything. That idea gives me support.
If Jesus were alive today, there would for sure be polls about, should he cut his hair? You know, is that a nice robe? Didn't he wear that to the last event? That's the society we live in. You can't tell me that that wouldn't happen today. We do it to everyone.
Beats me. Like they do know I'm gay, right? Like, I'm gay, and yet, you know, we can't pass a vote to have marriage equality, so there's opinions about who I am, but yet they like me.
My observation of human behavior is why I started doing standup. The first jokes that I ever wrote were, you know, somebody tastes something that tastes bad, they always want you to taste it immediately. They're like this is disgusting taste it. Taste how bad it is though.
I don't know at what age people stop wanting to be older. It must be around 40, when you're 'over the hill.' I don't even know what that means and why it's a bad thing. When I go hiking and I get over the hill, that means I'm past the hard part and there's a snack in my future.
I watched a documentary, Earthlings. It’s inside footage of factory farms; 50 billion animals a year are killed. They’re in pain, treated badly, diseased, pumped full of antibiotics. I saw the reality and just couldn’t ignore it. And I’m healthier and happier.
We put the wrong emphasis on what beauty is and what health is. Health is being vibrant and having energy and being happy.
I learned compassion from being discriminated against. Everything bad that's ever happened to me has taught me compassion.
I knew if I came out, there was a possibility I would lose my career. But I didn't do it for my career, I did it for me to live my truth. I thought, 'I don't want to live and have any shame whatsoever.' I should be proud of who I am, and I don't care if people approve or not. It is who I am.
This morning, when it was clear that Proposition 8 had passed in California, I can't explain the feeling I had. I was saddened beyond belief. Here we just had a giant step toward equality [with the election of Barack Obama] and then on the very next day, we took a giant step away. I believe one day a 'ban on gay marriage' will sound totally ridiculous. In the meantime, I will continue to speak out for equality for all of us.
I don't know what people are scared of. Maybe they think that their children will be influenced. And I gotta say I was raised by two heterosexuals. I was surrounded by heterosexual, just everywhere I looked — heterosexuals. And they did not influence . . . I mean I dabbled in high school, who didn't? Everyone dabbled, ya know?
I think that it is looked at, and some people are saying that blacks and women did not have the right to vote. Women just got the right to vote in 1920, blacks didn’t have the right to vote until 1870, and it just feels like there’s this old way of thinking that we’re not all the same. We are all the same people. All of us. You’re no different than I am. Our love is the same.
That's what you think parents would care about. I think a lot of parents say, "It's just that they're not going to be happy, or they're not going to find love, or it's going to be a hard road." But the longer they feel that way and the longer it stays in the closet like that, then they are going to have a hard road. If they're pretending to be someone they're not, they're definitely not going to find love—because you're not going to attract what's supposed to come to you if you're not putting out who you really are.
I don't like granny, and Portia loves thong underwear, but that to me is so uncomfortable. I like thongs on people, but I don't want to wear one!
I could say the same thing I've said in every relationship: 'I'm happy.' But there's happiness and there's love, and then there's completion. It doesn't take away from any of the relationships that I've had, 'cause I've had amazing relationships. ... But I feel like I found my perfect fit.
Whenever Portia and I are on the red carpet, they’re yelling out for her to tell them what she’s wearing. But nobody cares [about what I'm wearing] because I have a suit on, even if it’s a Gucci suit. That to me is frustrating, because I put effort into getting ready too. But I guess it’s not as important, and I’m not as dressed up somehow. I also feel myself more of a person than a gender. When people show me clothing that seems very, very feminine, it’s hard for me to embrace that, because it just doesn’t feel like me.
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