Bethenny Frankel, who admits that her “shtick is being an open book,” is ready to talk about her recent miscarriage.
A frequent contributor to the magazine, Frankel opened up in the July issue of Glamour about the tragedy that many women experience, but few chose to really talk about.
At 41, a successful business woman turned TV personality, Frankel is a happily married mother of a two-year-old daughter, Bryn. The discovery that she was pregnant was a bit of a shock that she at first settled into, then whole-heartedly embraced with excitement, “You know what? This is meant to be.”
But sadly, it wasn’t. At around seven weeks, she lost the baby, and blamed herself. “Is it because I’m busy? My lifestyle? Is this my fault?”
She tried to press on in business-as-normal mode, and the guilt subsided, but the pain did not. About ten days later she got a call telling her the lost baby was a girl. At that point she completely broke down, and let herself really mourn the loss.
She mentions the range of emotions that expectant mothers go through during the experience, then notes “How depressing the process is, and how anticlimactic—the exact opposite of having a baby.”
Though Frankel wouldn’t rule out more children, it’s something she is happy leaving up to fate. “I’m healthy and could try again. But I don’t want to be a “trying” person. If it’s meant to be, it will happen.”
Mentioning it several times throughout the article, one of the toughest things she seems to deal with on a daily basis is the thought of the little sister that her daughter might have had, but doesn’t.
Frankel brings up the statistic that as many as 25% of pregnancies may end in miscarriage. Before experiencing it herself, she said she didn’t really “get it.” She is hoping that it's something that will become more readily discussed so that women may have a stronger support system in order to heal.
Hoping to create a forum for women to be more expressive, Frankel’s latest venture is a daytime talk show that premiered this week in select cities on Fox.